Chapter 16 Of The Raise Your Vibration Book: "SELF LOVE" By Sabrina Reber

The greatest tool for overcoming the ego, healing the shadow, raising your vibration and transcending the human condition is to:

Learn to Love ALL of Yourself, UNCONDTIONALLY. 

We are multidimensional beings with alter egos, sub personalities, conscious and unconscious aspects of ourselves. We are divine and human at the same time. A part of our being lives in perfection and complete union with the Creator of “All That Is” while another part of our being has fragmented and separated itself from the truth of who it really is. The only way to heal and return all of our parts to our truth is to love and accept every aspect of our being. When we truly love ourselves we will be able to acknowledge, accept and integrate everything we have ever been - both our dark and our light. 

Until we truly love ourselves, we will never be able to truly express love to another being. Many people have a distorted view of what love is. Love is not a feeling; it is an emotion (energy in motion). Love is how we are behaving and interacting with ourselves and others, it is how we choose to carry our energy. Love is a state of BEING. In order to BE love to others we must first learn to BE loving to ourselves. Some of us are so full of fear we create chaos and confusion, not only for ourselves, but also with the very people we think we are being loving to. Love and Fear can never be experienced together, they are polar opposites. When we are in fear we are expressing the darkness and limitations of our ego and shadow consciousness. This creates fragmentation within our being, throwing us out of alignment with our God self. Many people allow fear to have such a tight grip on themselves, they end up sacrificing their own happiness in order to make another being love them. Their fear keeps them from realizing that their own lack of self-love will continue to create loveless, toxic relationships. When we stay in these relationships we are not doing our soul or their soul any good. These relationships are co-dependant and are based on attachment, not love, where each person feeds off of each other’s negative egoic behavioral patterns keeping them stuck in repetitive cycles of low vibrational energies. Staying in these kind of relationships is not loving and will never serve anyone’s highest good. If someone is harming you emotionally, mentally, physically or spiritually the most loving thing you can do for yourself and them is to release them. Disengage yourself while you allow them to make their own choices even if you know their choices will create additional suffering for them in the future. Every being has a right to experience life in any way they choose, even if it means they are using God’s energy in a destructive way. Releasing them does not mean you do not love them. Having the courage to set boundaries with these relationships and releasing them, if necessary, sends a message to the Universe that you are willing to learn the lessons involved and are no longer willing to dance this karmic dance. Setting healthy boundaries with others is an act of self-love and can also be a catalyst to the other person’s soul to prompt them to make the necessary changes in their own being that could set them on the path of self-transformation. You can love them from a distance, while you use all of your energy for more constructive life affirming choices for yourself that will also benefit the whole of humanity. Do not compromise the integrity of your soul! Choose to be self-fulfilling and stop expecting someone or something outside of yourself to provide the love you seek. Unconditional love can only be found within yourself, no one else can give you what you already are. Go within yourself and activate it, feel it, be it. You are love!

Love yourself enough to be honest with yourself and release everything that no longer serves your highest good. Unconditional love is an unlimited way of being. Allow yourself to bring everything to the surface of your awareness releasing all of your limitations, illusions, out dated beliefs, negative patterns and relationships that interfere with your divine birthright to experience a life of love, peace and harmony. Each of us must evolve and heal our old ways of being so we can access our inner truth and beauty which is held in a deeper aspect of our being. As we truly discover who we are, we realize that the material world, humanity, our ego, our shadow, our parents, our jobs, our friends and physicality cannot define our magnificence. We discover our Spirit, our God self, the true essence of who we are, the very core of our being which is Love. By healing ourselves we are able to tap into our essence of love and it is only through the love of self that we are able to pull divine light into our physical body putting on our “garments of light” which activates our light body. When we are truly “BEING” love, we love every aspect of ourselves regardless of what is being shown to us or what we are creating for ourselves. We understand that all experiences whether they are negative or positive are self created and are blessings in disguise. We realize that pain has a purpose and if it is accepted and brought into our awareness it will provide an opportunity to learn, grow, change and explore. Denial is not loving!! Everything in our lives is a perfect opportunity for us to heal something, create something or experience something in order for us to awaken into the truth of who we are. When we are being love, we recognize that everything is perfectly aligned for the purpose of soul growth, which brings us closer to fulfilling our soul’s journey. We no longer judge ourselves or place blame on someone else and their creations because we know that everything that occurs in our lives is divinely orchestrated to bring each of us closer to God. We realize that everyone is ultimately becoming the light and love of their true essence in human form.

Our light body, our divine birthright, cannot be activated until we begin to love ourselves enough to allow our divine energy to flow through us. Through our love for self, we will be able to transmute our denseness into light. Self-love, honesty and the desire to transcend the lower self will bring forth challenges, as all of our unhealed aspects of ourselves begin to be brought forth into the light of our consciousness so we can transform them. The only way to get through this process with ease and grace is to surrender to whatever comes up and love yourself unconditionally. The transmutation of negativity, painful experiences, distorted beliefs and trauma is sometimes uncomfortable. You will most likely re-experience the emotions and feelings that accompany the negativity so you can finally release them. Some of these experiences have been stored in our energy fields for many lifetimes and they are surfacing for a final clearing. The light of your God self is absorbing these distorted aspects of your body / mind / ego self that no longer serve your highest good. In order to become who we truly are, everything that is illusion must rise to the surface and be transmuted. 

As humanity heals and transforms itself, it will be increasingly important for each of us to practice becoming observers of the situation by practicing loving allowance and compassion. As difficult as it is, we must learn to love every facet of ourselves as we allow and embrace all of our hidden sub- personalities, emotions, feelings, habits, negative patterns and illusions to rise to the surface so we can “see” them. If we are blinded by our negativity and don’t even realize it is there how can we possibly transform it? In order to transcend ourselves and become the beautiful beings that we truly are we must first move through our darkness before we get to the light. Everything that is unembraceable, unacceptable, negative, “bad” is simply a distortion of our divine energy. It must be embraced with love by shining the light of our consciousness on it before it can be transformed. 

Many of our current belief systems have set us up to reject our own Self-Love. We bought into the belief that humans were so “bad” and unlovable that God sent his “only begotten son” down to Earth to die a brutal death of crucifixion so we could be redeemed from our sins. We bought into the belief that God is an angry God who requested a human sacrifice to compensate for our “badness”. This belief creates guilt, anger, fear, unworthiness, powerlessness and helplessness. It belittles the very nature of our being which is divinity and produces a perpetual cycle of self-condemnation. This belief keeps us from accessing a higher vibration and activating our high heart so we can feel God’s presence within our own being. It creates separation and keeps us looking outside of ourselves for someone to save us instead of us accepting responsibility for our own distortions and misqualified energy so we can transform them. Jesus did not come to Earth to die on the cross for our sins. God chose Jesus to come to Earth to be an example for us to live by and to show us the way to salvation. Jesus came to teach us how to save ourselves. He came to empower the people to look within themselves for the beauty and power of God within:

“Behold, the Kingdom of God is Within You, Ye are Gods” 

Instead of denying our distortions by putting on a false mask of “goodness,”  expecting someone outside of ourselves to fix us, each of us needs to step into a place of personal responsibility and self love surrendering to our God self’s desire to show our soul what needs to be healed and transformed. Our God self is just like a parent. If a child does something wrong the parent needs to talk to the child and show them what they did wrong so the child can self correct. If the child doesn’t see what they did wrong how will they be able to learn from their mistakes? Each of us must be willing to honestly look at ourselves through the eyes of self love desiring to see everything within us that needs to be healed and released. As we face God, we face ourselves and if we do not love ourselves, we do not love God.

Learn to fall in love with yourself! You are a magnificent beautiful divine being no matter what you have done in your life. The true you, eternal spirit, remains in a state of perfection. Do not judge yourself or anyone else for things that have occurred in the past. Today is a new day and today you can make new choices. Make the choice to be loving to yourself and others even when the world tells you to be critical and harsh. Love yourself right where you are right now in this very moment. Allow everything that needs to be revealed to you, be revealed. Allow everything that needs to be released, be released. Allow all feelings that need to surface, to surface. Allow lessons that need to be learned, be learned. Everything that we have ever experienced as a human being is ripe for resolution and all we have to do is accept ourselves right now and surrender to the process of healing and awakening. Sometimes we expand our consciousness through traumatic events and seemingly harsh circumstances. However, from a higher perspective, there is great growth and beauty in these moments. We are like butterflies, emerging from our cocoons seeking out something new, something not so limiting, something extraordinary that propels us into greater expansion. Love yourself for embarking on this journey!

The only person who can truly love you, is you. You are an extension of God and you are made from the Creators Love. Most of us do great harm to ourselves by thinking of ourselves as less than God essence. We are divine God sparks. We are God manifest in reality. Allow yourself to tap into this reservoir of love deep within your heart and you will realize that no thing and no one outside of yourself can truly give you the love you are seeking. You are who you have been waiting for; it is your love you seek. When you begin to truly love yourself and remember how extraordinary you are, you will tap into the divine love of your God self. This is beyond human love it is agape love (spiritual love) and cannot be described with words. It must be personally experienced. When you activate this part of yourself all of your old rules and beliefs about yourself will disappear. Allow yourself to tap into your own dimension of love allowing the new you to be birthed. Embrace how incredibly powerful, unique and magnificent you are. When you remember this about yourself, you will begin to see it in everyone else.

• Many people use the word “Love” but their actions are not loving and speak volumes. Become aware of the areas in your life where you are “saying” all the right things but your behavior reflects something differently.
• Make a list of all the reasons you feel you are not loveable. Who helped you create these beliefs? Are these beliefs your truth or are they illusions you have bought into? Choose to acknowledge, heal and release everything from your being that is not love.

• Look at yourself everyday in the mirror and tell yourself how much you love yourself. Look in your eyes. Take note of your resistance. Look at your body. Give thanks to your body for being the divine temple that houses your spirit and soul. Look beyond your physicality; look for your divine essence that surrounds your body. Hug yourself and tell yourself how much you are loved.
• What beliefs, habits, relationships, negative thought patterns, activities do you need to let go of that don’t support love for yourself or God’s love for you. Release everything that no longer serves your highest good knowing that something better will be put in its place.
• Set your intention at the start of each day to utilize any obstacles as opportunities for growth. Choose to learn the most from each obstacle so you can avoid repeating painful situations and toxic relationship patterns.

Love without action is meaningless. Action without Love is irrelevant.

Deepak Chopra

You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. 

Buddha 

It is possible to undergo a profound crisis involving non-ordinary experiences and to perceive it as pathological or psychiatric when in fact it may be more accurately and beneficially defined as a spiritual emergency - a wake up call. 

       Stanislav Grof

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Chapter 15 Of The Raise Your Vibration Book "Healing the Shadow" By Sabrina Reber

Our shadow is everything we think we aren’t. It is an accumulation of our stored darkness that we refuse to look at and accept. It is everything we reject and hate within our own being such as our own anger, jealousy, fear, shame, lies, ignorance, intolerance, bitterness and re-activeness. Our shadow holds everything we think is “bad” and since we only want to accept our “good” qualities….all of our deepest darkest secrets get pushed to the background (stored in our energy fields) creating our shadow. Whatever we feel is not acceptable to reveal to our family, friends, society and ourselves is hidden within our shadow. In order to be accepted and feel good about ourselves we reject those parts of our psyches that we don’t want to show the world. Unfortunately, all of these rejected aspects of ourselves still remain with us and are covered up by all of our social masks. However, these negative aspects are still a part of our being and they will continue to show themselves when we least expect it! Regardless of how much we try to suppress them, there they are seeking attention, healing and transformation. At a certain point on our journey back to wholeness, our shadow will reveal itself. What seemed like a straight path back to love, light and unification all the sudden takes an unexpected turn when the dark aspects of ourselves begin to make themselves known. At this point, we will no longer be able to hide from ourselves. As we face God, we face ourselves! All of our perceived “bad qualities” that we have not owned will rise to the surface so they too can be acknowledged and accepted and brought back into the light and truth of our being.

Facing our shadow is a difficult process because it appears suddenly, out of the blue, throwing us off track forcing us to face our fears, insecurities, past mistakes and poor decisions. Our shadow reminds us where we need to focus for a deeper level of healing. It shows us our repressed emotions, feelings, dysfunctions, history, denials, weaknesses, addictions and patterns. We do not need to fear our shadow; in fact, we need to learn how to embrace it. Our shadow will only show up when we are ready to truly move into wholeness, gain our highest soul’s potential and become the master of our lives. We must move through our darkness before we will truly be able to fully step into the light of our divinity. When we acknowledge the information our shadow provides and accept its teachings, our shadow becomes the bridge between the darkness of our fears to the light of redemption and unification. Our soul knows when it is time to clear our energy and begin to live our life in a different way. When our soul feels we are ready, our shadow will be brought forth and each of us will be called to find the inner strength to face it so we can transform it. This part of ourselves can no longer be denied, it must be acknowledged, transformed and integrated into our being before we will be able to raise our vibrations to our highest potential.

When things in our life take a turn for the worst and we can’t figure out what we are doing to create these circumstances, we can be sure that our soul has decided that it is time for us to meet our shadow. Our shadow is held in place by the unconscious parts of our mind that need healing. These unconscious parts are like sub personalities that were created from our unwillingness to fully feel our negative feelings because we perceived them to be bad. Since we have not been taught how to deal with these negative feelings, in a healthy way, we stuff them in our subconscious mind creating our shadow. This part of our self gets disconnected from our conscious self because we only want to deal with what makes us feel good. Unfortunately, the human experience does not always feel good and our uncomfortable feelings must be dealt with or we will continue to stuff things in our unconscious mind creating a darker, larger shadow moving us further and further away from the light of our God self. Denial of our negative feelings does not make them go away. In order to transform them they must be fully experienced so they can be acknowledged and healed. If we continue to avoid these unpleasant feelings they will continue to influence our behaviors and will be like little magnets that continue to attract people and situations into our life that we would rather not be involved with. When we feel like there is something outside of ourselves creating our life circumstance, and we want to blame others, we need to stop and realize that it is our shadowy sub personalities that are magnetizing these events into our lives. These parts of ourselves have been disowned and they are drawing attention to themselves so they can be welcomed back into our being and healed. This can only occur if we choose to receive the gift our shadow is trying to show us and acknowledge the emotion, feeling and behavior as part of our being. If we deny our shadow consciousness it will continue to persist. Bringing our conscious awareness to it and accepting it as part of our being shines light on it, transmuting it into love. Once all of these disowned aspects of our being are integrated, we will no longer need to draw unpleasant situations into our lives. 

The unwillingness to look at ourselves honestly and make the changes necessary to evolve our souls is the essence of hypocrisy. We must accept accountability, responsibility and ownership of our own darkness and misqualified energy. We all have a shadow and the only way to transform it is to shine light on it through our increased awareness and willingness to stop rejecting those parts of ourselves that we don’t want to own. Be aware that your shadow and negative ego support each other because they are both disowned aspects of ourselves that we have separated from the light of our God self. Healing means to make ourselves whole. By disowning and rejecting our ego and our shadow we fragment ourselves into separate beings keeping us from reaching a state of unification and wholeness. In order for us to re-member ourselves bringing us into a state of healing and wholeness we must recognize and own our shadow so we can transform our ego bringing more of our true divine essence into our being.

Both the ego and the shadow support each other because the main job of the ego is to keep us in separation, fragmented from our God self. In fact your ego will deny that your shadow is a part of your being, in any way. The ego knows if we recognize and heal our shadow, our shadow will be integrated into our God self which means the ego will be out of a job and integrated as well. In order to keep the shadow from being acknowledged, the ego will assist the shadow by helping the shadow to distance itself from its source of discomfort which creates further separation and denial within our being. For example, when we see someone misbehaving or being “bad” we pass judgment (ego) and immediately label it as “not us” (shadow). We blame (ego & shadow) and point fingers at everyone else for their inappropriate behavior projecting (ego & shadow) those parts of ourselves we have denied (ego) onto them making ourselves superior (ego) to all the other people out there (ego) who could never, never be reflections of ourselves. The ego loves to reinforce its sense of separateness by making us feel justified and self-righteous in our blaming. The egos basic premise is that of victim hood and a victim must always have someone to blame. Because our shadow avoids everything unpleasant, it will avoid taking responsibility for the co-creation of the circumstance and stuff it in the subconscious mind simply wanting it to go away leaving us alone. Unfortunately, this perpetuates and intensifies our darkness keeping our rejected parts inside the shadow and away from the light of our God self.

The shadow holds all the darkness from every traumatic event we have ever endured and not cleared from our subconscious mind. In order for us to fully step into our light, resolve our karma and raise our vibrations we must face and clear all of those things we refuse to accept about ourselves. This is why our relationships are often referred to as mirrors. Whatever we see in another person “that provokes an uncomfortable reaction” is usually a good indicator of a characteristic or sub personality within our own being that needs to be accepted and healed as well. We tend to see in other people all of the qualities that we have personally disowned. They are mirroring back to us our own shadows. Anger, hatred, jealousy and bitterness can only hurt us if it is denied. When we suppress our emotions and feelings, because we have been taught they are wrong, our shadow enlarges keeping us from accessing greater amounts of light. Once our feelings are embraced and we learn what they are trying to teach us they will no longer be stored in our shadows demagnetizing the charge they once had on us. For example, if we see someone overreacting and it doesn’t provoke a reaction, emotion or feeling within our being, then we can be sure we have owned this aspect of ourselves because it will no longer have a charge within our being. We will be able to have compassion for this person knowing that a part of their shadow has risen up to the surface to be acknowledged and healed. Neutrality, not denial, is a good sign that you are integrating those aspects of your self that use to enrage you. However, if you continue to attract repetitive situations with people who keep demonstrating a similar type of behavior, that provokes a reaction in you, then you can be sure the Universe is trying to show you a disowned aspect of yourself that needs to be owned and integrated within your being. The Universe is lovingly bringing situations to each one of us helping us to heal and step into wholeness. When we have demagnetized all of our shadow consciousness, we will no longer attract relationships to show us our hidden aspects that we have been in denial about. We will no longer need another person to mirror our shadow back to us and we will naturally move towards those relationships that reflect back our light. Before we can be healed of any condition - body, mind or soul - we must be willing to take ownership of our creations before we can truly let them go releasing them into the light of God.

Each of us are affected by our own level of shadow consciousness and ego distortions. For the most part, this is not intentional, it is usually an unconscious act of self-deception that our shadow and ego thrives on. However, raising our vibration, merging with our God self and entering the Kingdom of God requires us to bring everything we have been avoiding unconsciously into our conscious awareness so it can be transformed. Energy never dies; it must be transformed! If we do not face our shadow, feel it and clear it we will not be able to raise our vibration high enough for our God self to merge with our being. We have to transform our darkness into light and the only way to do that is to bring it into our conscious awareness and look at it with brutal self-honesty. We need to clear out our energy fields and face our lies, shame, blame and anger. We must stop denying the negativity that lives within our being and face it so we can heal ourselves and become whole and authentic. These negativities are the very things we are here on Earth to heal. We are in a constant state of being refined and our ego and shadow work will not end until we have purified ourselves enough to be completely absorbed back into the light of the Creator Of “All That Is”.

Shadow Reactions

• Anything that feels like it isn’t you.
• Feelings and Emotions “others” provoke in you that you just want to go away. Your shadow is all of your rejections.
• All feelings and emotions you don’t want to own.
• “Out of character” emotions or reactions that are showing up in your life. These are the hidden sub personalities, stored in your subconscious, that want to be healed!
• Aspects of your self you don’t want others to see so you wear a mask.
• Our deepest, darkest and most terrible secrets.
• Our resistances. What we resist, persists.

Ego Reactions that Support the Shadow

• Blames others for their current situation. Refuses to accept responsibility for their own life / circumstances / creations / behaviors. We blame someone else when they exhibit a part of our shadow that is trying to be healed.
• Projects their disowned sub personalities onto others because they don’t want to acknowledge their hidden issues. Finger pointing! Our outer reality is a reflection of our inner reality. Whatever we see in another person, that provokes a reaction, is a reflection of something within our own being that needs to be owned.

“ You are angry ”

“ You are obnoxious ”

“ You are over reactive ”

“ You are hateful ”

“ You are emotional ”

“ You have a big ego ”

• The ego creates the distance (separation) the shadow wants from its uncomfortable feelings. This creates separation / fragmentation within our being keeping us from reuniting with all of our parts, which keeps us from being whole.
• Denial! Denies that the shadow is a part of you:

“ I don’t have a shadow ”

 “ I don’t have negative feelings ”

 “ I don’t have any darkness”

 “ I don’t wear a mask.”

 “ I don’t have issues”

 “ I don’t need healing”

Signs that You are Integrating Your Shadow and Ego

• You notice behaviors in others but have no need to react or respond.
• Other people’s behaviors no longer create a feeling or an emotion in you. They do not trigger an internal alarm or create negative head chatter. You are becoming neutral.
• You no longer blame the other person or berate yourself when a shadow aspect shows up. You acknowledge and accept the disowned parts of your being, shining the light of your consciousness on them so they can be transmuted and healed. You are pulling yourself out of blame and denial.
• You are able to fully embrace and fully love all parts of yourself, even the parts that aren’t so great. This is self-love!!!
• You embrace your humanity with determination and acceptance knowing that when your shadow consciousness arises this is a positive sign that shows healing is occurring in your life. You are allowing all of your disowned shadowy sub personalities to be demagnetized through your acceptance and healing of them.
• Your life has become more peaceful and your circumstances, relationships and interactions are becoming more positive.

Questions to Ask Yourself

• What judgments do you have about other people? These judgments show us our hidden aspects that need to be healed. Once we own them, other people’s behaviors will not bother us.
• What scenarios in your life are repetitive? Do you keep attracting the same kind of negative people in your life? What are they trying to show you?
• Be really honest with yourself and make a list of all the things about yourself you try to hide from others. Recognize that it takes twice as much energy to hide these aspects from yourself and others than it does to own them.
• Where are you being inauthentic in your interactions? In what situations do you put on a “mask”? What are you hiding?

If we do not confront the darkness within us we will meet it as fate.    
Carl Jung

Because the sage confronts his difficulties he never experiences them.    
Lao Tsu

The gold is in the dark.  
Carl Jung

When you can say, “ I am that”, to the deepest darkest aspects of yourself, then you can reach true enlightenment.      
Debbie Ford

The unexamined life is not worth living.
Plato

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