PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

You are responsible for your vibration. No one else can interfere with the level of your vibration unless you allow them to.

When we allow ourselves to get absorbed in other people's dysfunction~ mainly "their" opinions, beliefs, criticisms and judgments of us ~ we fall out of alignment with our truth and fall into the world of distorted projections and illusions.

Likewise, it would behoove us to be aware of our own projections and distortions we see in everyone else ~ but refuse to see within ourselves.

The universe is a holographic mirror.....although the reflection is not "EXACT"....the universe IS reflecting "something" back to us that we need to learn, accept, transcend and heal within our very own being.

If we see something within someone else and we get NO emotional reaction from it; then don't over analyze.....just take note and move on. Understand that they are reflecting a lesson to you that they are moving through....perhaps it is a lesson you have already learned, and therefore there is not an emotional charge. 

However ~ if you see something in someone else and your mind chatter increases, you start to blame and criticize ~ realize you are resisting the universal mirror that is trying to show you something about yourself that needs to be brought into your conscious awareness. Once you become aware of the mirror "lesson", and accept it as part of your creation, you will have the power (knowledge) to make the changes within yourself so you don't have to repeat the same scenarios over and over again.

Being truly honest with ourselves is difficult. It is something we must always be vigilant about. Our ego and shadow consciousness is tricky, and manipulative ~ blinding us from our truth and freedom. Our shadow and ego consciousness consist of all the “masks” we wear, and they are the very things we have to accept and remove from our being before we can clean out our divine tubes and channels that lead us to our Higher Selves. ~ Sabrina

Why Am I Attracting Angry And Aggressive People?

QUESTION: Hello, I wanted to ask about anger and aggression. The more peaceful I become and the further into my spiritual work I progress the more anger and aggression I am experiencing from people around me - some of these people dont know me personally, but I experience their anger when I go out and about? I would be interested to hear what you think about this situation and whether anyone else is experiencing this as well? Blessings


Well, congratulations. You must be pretty far along on your journey. There is a period on our spiritual path ~ after we have committed ourselves to our spiritual practice ~ where our soul will feel it is time to bring forth our SHADOW. Most people are completely oblivious to their shadow behaviors, because their soul has not brought the shadow forth to be healed.....the shadow is still hidden from their conscious awareness and people are literally blinded by themselves because they are unwilling to heal and change.


This time period is bizarre ~ because as we meditate and focus on the LIGHT, bringing our God Self more and more into our being, a sense of inner peace and calm begins to transforms us. We are much more balanced and loving, and the last thing we want is confrontation or negative energies....however, when we least expect it ~ our SHADOW energy appears and is reflected in every person we interact with through "their" very aggressive behaviors. The key is to accept that you too have been angry, aggressive, disrespectful and hurtful along your journey as well. Perhaps not now.....but in your past. You will need to be really honest with yourself and accept that the people externally of you are showing you energies within your very own energy field that are desiring to be released and transmuted. You must acknowledge these energies ~ shine the light of your conscious awareness on them, so they can be healed.


I went through a crazy period where a man literally climbed our backyard fence screaming at my kids because they threw a pine cone over the fence, and it almost hit his  car.....he was very aggressive and it was a very scary ordeal. He then returned the next week and egged and keyed my car. Every cashier ~ no matter where I went ~ was rude and aggressive. My daughter's friends parents were irrationally picking fights with me, parents in the school pick up line were honking their horns and throwing their fist in the air at me.....even neighbors would yell at me....one even turned the sprinkler system on at the neighborhood pool while my kids and I were at the pool on the lawn in our lawn chairs tanning and reading books. He wanted to maintenance the sprinkler system, right then and there, regardless if anyone was at the pool or not. Honestly, "everyone else's" behaviors were so crazy and unexpected....but they were all reflecting the negative hidden energies within my own being that were trying to be healed. They were not "exact" reflections, but none the less.....they were showing me aggressive energies within myself that I needed to accept as part of my being so I could "see" them and choose to transcend those behavioral patterns within myself. It really doesn't matter if "they" look at themselves, and see how inappropriate their behaviors are ~ what matters is that I was willing to look at myself and transcend the "inappropriate" behavioral patterns and energies within me. We must keep ourselves on the inner path of salvation vs. the external path of egoic recreation where we project and blame everyone ELSE for their poor behaviors while we still have poor behaviors within us that need to be addressed.


Our shadow is the gatekeeper to our higher LIGHT. We must move through the darkness of our shadow before we reach our en-lighten-ment. Because our ego's are strong, defensive and resistant the Universe lovingly provides a Universal Mirror to reflect back to us the things within our own being that are fragmented and not connected to the LIGHT of our God Self. These aspects must be brought back into wholeness and the only way to allow them to return to us is to accept them as distortions within ourselves. Once we accept them and lovingly let them return to the light of our awareness....they will be transformed into a higher vibrational energy and we will heal them and transcend the old behavioral patterns that are attached to them.


This period is also a time of total surrender to our higher self where we ALLOW our inner darkness to come forward so our soul can make new LIGHT filled choices instead of repeating the old negative egoic behavioral patterns from our past. We get to demonstrate to the Universe that we are willing to only create good in our lives for ourselves and others. This is the period where we prove we are grounding the LIGHT into our being by BEING the Love and the Light we claim ourselves to BE. If we are really peaceful and loving then no matter what happens, we remain in that state at all times and we will be given opportunity after opportunity to show that we have mastered ourselves and our energy through experiencing very difficult circumstances. We will be tested.


So the best way to determine how we are doing is to notice our energy when unpleasant circumstances arise. How does our energy feel? If we feel anger.....are we able to accept that someone has made us angry? Can we notice it, release it and move on or do we carry that anger with us all day blaming everyone else for their poor behaviors...which will only create more angry situations for us to learn from. When people make us angry, are we able to hold the space and ground our light or do we react negatively lashing out at them as well. Can we speak up for ourselves in a firm and loving way when someone is being irrational or do we run and scurry away form confrontation? Are we able to set boundaries with people or do we continue to let them treat us poorly.... repetitively? 


Eventually, the distorted energies within our energy fields begin to dissolve and we become balanced co-creators, creating a loving, peaceful, joyful, reality for ourselves. However, we must always keep in mind that our external world is a reflection of our inner workings. There will be times when we fall out of alignment ~ we are all learning and evolving into greater states of consciousness and soul expansion. It is part of our growth and it is through our experiences that we gain the most advancement. At this point on our journey, we are stepping into our mastery, which means we will ALWAYS need to accept responsibility for whatever is going on in our lives. Sometimes we may need to release something that no longer serves our highest good or we may need to accept something about ourselves that needs softening and refinement. 


Always remember that the Universe is holographic. There is always something to learn from other peoples behaviors that have been brought into our very own personal world.....it is our state of consciousness that creates our reality. We are magnetizing EVERYTHING to us as an opportunity to learn, heal, strengthen, soften and advance our soul.


Here is a chapter from my book, "Raise Your Vibration", about the Ego and Shadow Consciousness and how they work together to keep us from gaining our light. The ego and shadow are our greatest teachers and help us to evolve our soul's when we finally decide to take dominion over them:


EGO
SHADOW

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Universal Mirror and Critical People

QUESTION: I have an issue with critical people, Not so much personally, but in how to deal with them. I understand that criticism is generally a reflection of it's "owner", any thoughts on how to help these people? Understanding of course that we all deal with our own things at our own rates, but I do not wish to "block" anyone who is over critical.

HTRYV ANSWER: If you are in a place where you have done a lot of self work, you are very grounded, have a strong energy field and are able to tolerate critical people and not let it bother you, lower your vibration or close your heart then you can become a "Light House" for them and counteract their negativity with something positive to say about the person they are criticizing. You can be a LIGHT of awareness letting them know that words and thoughts travel to the person they are speaking negatively about (especially if it is done with strong emotion) and these negative "thought forms" actually accumulate around the persons energy field. If the person has a weak energy field these negative thought forms can turn into a "psychic attack" and invade the persons energy field making them feel very unbalanced, sickly, confused and overwhelmed. We can also create our own "pyschic attack" towards our self....our own negative, critical thoughts and emotions create havoc within our being and we are the ones doing it to ourselves.  I strongly feel if people "really" knew how powerful they were and had the awareness of how their energy works we would not do a lot of things many of us take part in everyday. Sometimes, we do far more harm than good ~ this is evident with many of our countries leaders. So much hate and negativity is projected to our leaders from the mass consciousness our leaders aren't energetically able to BE the difference we want them to be because WE aren't using our energy/power of intention/love/positivity to help our leaders fulfill what WE want. We spend to much of our energy focusing on what we don't want, spewing pyschic debris everywhere, instead of harnessing our power to create what we do want.  

Aside form being a Light house of awareness ~ you can also BLESS negative, critical people with what they need. Silently in your head, you can say ~ I bless you with positive energy. I bless you with love. I bless you with higher awareness. I bless you with joy. I bless you with beauty. I bless you with patience. I bless you with truth. I bless you with health. I bless you with happiness. Whatever they need, bless them with it. YOU can make a huge difference and everything you bless them with, you also receive. Likewise, if we are blessing people with negativity....well guess what, we create negative energy in our energy fields too.

I highly suggest for each of us to be wise and discerning with our relationships. Choose relationships that are in vibrational resonance, loving and uplifting. At this time on our planet half of us are choosing ascension and the other half are choosing to remain in duality. At any moment those choosing duality can change their mind to do what it is going to take to raise their vibrations and ascend..... you could be the catalyst that gets others to awaken and transcend their negative behavioral patterns. However, do not be attached to the outcome and understand it is not your responsibility ~ it doesn't matter what their choice is as they will have another opportunity for ascension in another 26,000 years. Everyone has the exact same opportunity right now to choose from their own free will how they want to evolve their souls. We can learn through the chaos and fear of duality or we can learn to transcend duality advancing our souls through love, balance and harmony. It's a choice each person must make ~ Father/Mother God will not make the choice for us. 

Also I want to address MIRRORS. It is true that the universe is our mirror but I feel it is very important for people to understand that nothing is an EXACT mirror. There are many reasons for a mirror and I am discovering that many people are willing to accept external reflections as mirrors of internal stuff,  but we often times take the mirror and immediately become our worst critic. Instead of spending the time for self introspection we immediately step into judgment of ourselves and others, viewing the mirror from only one perspective, which is the "exact" behavior the other person demonstrated and then we "own it" as if it is ours.  We need to use discernment with mirrors because mirrors always reflect variations of light and shadow back to us ~ mirrors are multifaceted and need to be addressed as such not just from the immediate superficial value we receive immediately. Oftentimes, it is the "FEELING" these mirrors create in us that needs to be addressed.....did the mirror reflection make you feel inadequate, fearful, disempowered....did it bring up an old childhood wound you have suppressed that needs to be healed? Also, many times the mirror will show us how we are treating ourselves. If we surround ourselves with a lot of critical people ~ perhaps there is a lesson in it for us. Are we being to critical to our self? Do we lack self love? Are we able to set appropriate boundaries and use discernment? We personally may not be critical of others but we may be incredibly critical and harsh to ourselves. ~ Sabrina

Here is a link to a blog about mirrors that will help you ask the right questions when a mirror reflection shows up in your life: http://howtoraiseyourvibration.blogspot.com/2011/04/someone-is-being-mirror-for-you-to-show.html

Chapter 15 Of The Raise Your Vibration Book "Healing the Shadow" By Sabrina Reber

Our shadow is everything we think we aren’t. It is an accumulation of our stored darkness that we refuse to look at and accept. It is everything we reject and hate within our own being such as our own anger, jealousy, fear, shame, lies, ignorance, intolerance, bitterness and re-activeness. Our shadow holds everything we think is “bad” and since we only want to accept our “good” qualities….all of our deepest darkest secrets get pushed to the background (stored in our energy fields) creating our shadow. Whatever we feel is not acceptable to reveal to our family, friends, society and ourselves is hidden within our shadow. In order to be accepted and feel good about ourselves we reject those parts of our psyches that we don’t want to show the world. Unfortunately, all of these rejected aspects of ourselves still remain with us and are covered up by all of our social masks. However, these negative aspects are still a part of our being and they will continue to show themselves when we least expect it! Regardless of how much we try to suppress them, there they are seeking attention, healing and transformation. At a certain point on our journey back to wholeness, our shadow will reveal itself. What seemed like a straight path back to love, light and unification all the sudden takes an unexpected turn when the dark aspects of ourselves begin to make themselves known. At this point, we will no longer be able to hide from ourselves. As we face God, we face ourselves! All of our perceived “bad qualities” that we have not owned will rise to the surface so they too can be acknowledged and accepted and brought back into the light and truth of our being.

Facing our shadow is a difficult process because it appears suddenly, out of the blue, throwing us off track forcing us to face our fears, insecurities, past mistakes and poor decisions. Our shadow reminds us where we need to focus for a deeper level of healing. It shows us our repressed emotions, feelings, dysfunctions, history, denials, weaknesses, addictions and patterns. We do not need to fear our shadow; in fact, we need to learn how to embrace it. Our shadow will only show up when we are ready to truly move into wholeness, gain our highest soul’s potential and become the master of our lives. We must move through our darkness before we will truly be able to fully step into the light of our divinity. When we acknowledge the information our shadow provides and accept its teachings, our shadow becomes the bridge between the darkness of our fears to the light of redemption and unification. Our soul knows when it is time to clear our energy and begin to live our life in a different way. When our soul feels we are ready, our shadow will be brought forth and each of us will be called to find the inner strength to face it so we can transform it. This part of ourselves can no longer be denied, it must be acknowledged, transformed and integrated into our being before we will be able to raise our vibrations to our highest potential.

When things in our life take a turn for the worst and we can’t figure out what we are doing to create these circumstances, we can be sure that our soul has decided that it is time for us to meet our shadow. Our shadow is held in place by the unconscious parts of our mind that need healing. These unconscious parts are like sub personalities that were created from our unwillingness to fully feel our negative feelings because we perceived them to be bad. Since we have not been taught how to deal with these negative feelings, in a healthy way, we stuff them in our subconscious mind creating our shadow. This part of our self gets disconnected from our conscious self because we only want to deal with what makes us feel good. Unfortunately, the human experience does not always feel good and our uncomfortable feelings must be dealt with or we will continue to stuff things in our unconscious mind creating a darker, larger shadow moving us further and further away from the light of our God self. Denial of our negative feelings does not make them go away. In order to transform them they must be fully experienced so they can be acknowledged and healed. If we continue to avoid these unpleasant feelings they will continue to influence our behaviors and will be like little magnets that continue to attract people and situations into our life that we would rather not be involved with. When we feel like there is something outside of ourselves creating our life circumstance, and we want to blame others, we need to stop and realize that it is our shadowy sub personalities that are magnetizing these events into our lives. These parts of ourselves have been disowned and they are drawing attention to themselves so they can be welcomed back into our being and healed. This can only occur if we choose to receive the gift our shadow is trying to show us and acknowledge the emotion, feeling and behavior as part of our being. If we deny our shadow consciousness it will continue to persist. Bringing our conscious awareness to it and accepting it as part of our being shines light on it, transmuting it into love. Once all of these disowned aspects of our being are integrated, we will no longer need to draw unpleasant situations into our lives. 

The unwillingness to look at ourselves honestly and make the changes necessary to evolve our souls is the essence of hypocrisy. We must accept accountability, responsibility and ownership of our own darkness and misqualified energy. We all have a shadow and the only way to transform it is to shine light on it through our increased awareness and willingness to stop rejecting those parts of ourselves that we don’t want to own. Be aware that your shadow and negative ego support each other because they are both disowned aspects of ourselves that we have separated from the light of our God self. Healing means to make ourselves whole. By disowning and rejecting our ego and our shadow we fragment ourselves into separate beings keeping us from reaching a state of unification and wholeness. In order for us to re-member ourselves bringing us into a state of healing and wholeness we must recognize and own our shadow so we can transform our ego bringing more of our true divine essence into our being.

Both the ego and the shadow support each other because the main job of the ego is to keep us in separation, fragmented from our God self. In fact your ego will deny that your shadow is a part of your being, in any way. The ego knows if we recognize and heal our shadow, our shadow will be integrated into our God self which means the ego will be out of a job and integrated as well. In order to keep the shadow from being acknowledged, the ego will assist the shadow by helping the shadow to distance itself from its source of discomfort which creates further separation and denial within our being. For example, when we see someone misbehaving or being “bad” we pass judgment (ego) and immediately label it as “not us” (shadow). We blame (ego & shadow) and point fingers at everyone else for their inappropriate behavior projecting (ego & shadow) those parts of ourselves we have denied (ego) onto them making ourselves superior (ego) to all the other people out there (ego) who could never, never be reflections of ourselves. The ego loves to reinforce its sense of separateness by making us feel justified and self-righteous in our blaming. The egos basic premise is that of victim hood and a victim must always have someone to blame. Because our shadow avoids everything unpleasant, it will avoid taking responsibility for the co-creation of the circumstance and stuff it in the subconscious mind simply wanting it to go away leaving us alone. Unfortunately, this perpetuates and intensifies our darkness keeping our rejected parts inside the shadow and away from the light of our God self.

The shadow holds all the darkness from every traumatic event we have ever endured and not cleared from our subconscious mind. In order for us to fully step into our light, resolve our karma and raise our vibrations we must face and clear all of those things we refuse to accept about ourselves. This is why our relationships are often referred to as mirrors. Whatever we see in another person “that provokes an uncomfortable reaction” is usually a good indicator of a characteristic or sub personality within our own being that needs to be accepted and healed as well. We tend to see in other people all of the qualities that we have personally disowned. They are mirroring back to us our own shadows. Anger, hatred, jealousy and bitterness can only hurt us if it is denied. When we suppress our emotions and feelings, because we have been taught they are wrong, our shadow enlarges keeping us from accessing greater amounts of light. Once our feelings are embraced and we learn what they are trying to teach us they will no longer be stored in our shadows demagnetizing the charge they once had on us. For example, if we see someone overreacting and it doesn’t provoke a reaction, emotion or feeling within our being, then we can be sure we have owned this aspect of ourselves because it will no longer have a charge within our being. We will be able to have compassion for this person knowing that a part of their shadow has risen up to the surface to be acknowledged and healed. Neutrality, not denial, is a good sign that you are integrating those aspects of your self that use to enrage you. However, if you continue to attract repetitive situations with people who keep demonstrating a similar type of behavior, that provokes a reaction in you, then you can be sure the Universe is trying to show you a disowned aspect of yourself that needs to be owned and integrated within your being. The Universe is lovingly bringing situations to each one of us helping us to heal and step into wholeness. When we have demagnetized all of our shadow consciousness, we will no longer attract relationships to show us our hidden aspects that we have been in denial about. We will no longer need another person to mirror our shadow back to us and we will naturally move towards those relationships that reflect back our light. Before we can be healed of any condition - body, mind or soul - we must be willing to take ownership of our creations before we can truly let them go releasing them into the light of God.

Each of us are affected by our own level of shadow consciousness and ego distortions. For the most part, this is not intentional, it is usually an unconscious act of self-deception that our shadow and ego thrives on. However, raising our vibration, merging with our God self and entering the Kingdom of God requires us to bring everything we have been avoiding unconsciously into our conscious awareness so it can be transformed. Energy never dies; it must be transformed! If we do not face our shadow, feel it and clear it we will not be able to raise our vibration high enough for our God self to merge with our being. We have to transform our darkness into light and the only way to do that is to bring it into our conscious awareness and look at it with brutal self-honesty. We need to clear out our energy fields and face our lies, shame, blame and anger. We must stop denying the negativity that lives within our being and face it so we can heal ourselves and become whole and authentic. These negativities are the very things we are here on Earth to heal. We are in a constant state of being refined and our ego and shadow work will not end until we have purified ourselves enough to be completely absorbed back into the light of the Creator Of “All That Is”.

Shadow Reactions

• Anything that feels like it isn’t you.
• Feelings and Emotions “others” provoke in you that you just want to go away. Your shadow is all of your rejections.
• All feelings and emotions you don’t want to own.
• “Out of character” emotions or reactions that are showing up in your life. These are the hidden sub personalities, stored in your subconscious, that want to be healed!
• Aspects of your self you don’t want others to see so you wear a mask.
• Our deepest, darkest and most terrible secrets.
• Our resistances. What we resist, persists.

Ego Reactions that Support the Shadow

• Blames others for their current situation. Refuses to accept responsibility for their own life / circumstances / creations / behaviors. We blame someone else when they exhibit a part of our shadow that is trying to be healed.
• Projects their disowned sub personalities onto others because they don’t want to acknowledge their hidden issues. Finger pointing! Our outer reality is a reflection of our inner reality. Whatever we see in another person, that provokes a reaction, is a reflection of something within our own being that needs to be owned.

“ You are angry ”

“ You are obnoxious ”

“ You are over reactive ”

“ You are hateful ”

“ You are emotional ”

“ You have a big ego ”

• The ego creates the distance (separation) the shadow wants from its uncomfortable feelings. This creates separation / fragmentation within our being keeping us from reuniting with all of our parts, which keeps us from being whole.
• Denial! Denies that the shadow is a part of you:

“ I don’t have a shadow ”

 “ I don’t have negative feelings ”

 “ I don’t have any darkness”

 “ I don’t wear a mask.”

 “ I don’t have issues”

 “ I don’t need healing”

Signs that You are Integrating Your Shadow and Ego

• You notice behaviors in others but have no need to react or respond.
• Other people’s behaviors no longer create a feeling or an emotion in you. They do not trigger an internal alarm or create negative head chatter. You are becoming neutral.
• You no longer blame the other person or berate yourself when a shadow aspect shows up. You acknowledge and accept the disowned parts of your being, shining the light of your consciousness on them so they can be transmuted and healed. You are pulling yourself out of blame and denial.
• You are able to fully embrace and fully love all parts of yourself, even the parts that aren’t so great. This is self-love!!!
• You embrace your humanity with determination and acceptance knowing that when your shadow consciousness arises this is a positive sign that shows healing is occurring in your life. You are allowing all of your disowned shadowy sub personalities to be demagnetized through your acceptance and healing of them.
• Your life has become more peaceful and your circumstances, relationships and interactions are becoming more positive.

Questions to Ask Yourself

• What judgments do you have about other people? These judgments show us our hidden aspects that need to be healed. Once we own them, other people’s behaviors will not bother us.
• What scenarios in your life are repetitive? Do you keep attracting the same kind of negative people in your life? What are they trying to show you?
• Be really honest with yourself and make a list of all the things about yourself you try to hide from others. Recognize that it takes twice as much energy to hide these aspects from yourself and others than it does to own them.
• Where are you being inauthentic in your interactions? In what situations do you put on a “mask”? What are you hiding?

If we do not confront the darkness within us we will meet it as fate.    
Carl Jung

Because the sage confronts his difficulties he never experiences them.    
Lao Tsu

The gold is in the dark.  
Carl Jung

When you can say, “ I am that”, to the deepest darkest aspects of yourself, then you can reach true enlightenment.      
Debbie Ford

The unexamined life is not worth living.
Plato

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