Spiritual Teacher/Healer/Student Relationship. Common Problems And How To Address Them: By Sabrina Reber.

QUESTION: My question is in terms of relationships that, as Pema Chodron says, are "meant to push your buttons". Specifically, the teacher/student relationship. In your own experience, how do you know when that relationship is completely over, and it's time for the next teacher, and when that relationship is just ready to be transformed and taken to the next level? The teacher/student relationship is fraught with adversarial conflict and compassionate detachment, as well as great commitment. It's one of the trickier ones in my own life..I want to raise my vibration so I can continue with my teacher, and it's incredibly challenging. Thank you for taking the time to contemplate this, especially since you are a teacher and we are your students too!


ANSWER: First of all, I would say we are meant to have MANY spiritual teachers, and healers along our spiritual journey. Each teacher will provide us something NEW to further expand our growth. If we remain with only one teacher we will greatly limit ourselves. We need to be very careful about becoming comfortable, co-dependent and attached to our spiritual teacher. The student always needs to be discerning with the information and teachings the teacher is presenting, as well as, be discerning with PROJECTIONS from your SELF, as well as, from the teacher. This will require extreme self honesty and self introspection on both parties ~ so be very careful of a teacher who no longer feels they need to do inner work.....we are all a work in progress! The teacher is learning and evolving as well!

The teacher/student relationship can become highly destructive, and harmful to your soul if the teacher begins to take away your FREE WILL. The teacher needs to always respect and honor where you are on your journey, and this requires EXTREME patience. The teacher is truly there to help you SEE your self, and also to help you develop and build confidence in your OWN inner voice and intuitive guidance system. This is where it can get messy because the student is oftentimes in denial, and may not truly want or be able to “SEE” themselves. If the teacher is not careful they may step out of their heart space, and become frustrated...perhaps even angry and controlling. Never forget the teacher is human, and working on their stuff too! A frustrated teacher would be very counterproductive because the teacher may start to tell the student how they should live their life, how they should feel and where they should be along their journey, and this is totally out of alignment with the students highest and best good because the teachers main role is to GUIDE, INSPIRE and help the student ACTIVATE and TRUST the inner voice within.

I personally do not resonate with the belief “relationships are meant to push our buttons”......it is true relationships can show us our character defects, but if we believe relationships are meant to push our buttons then that is exactly what we will create for ourselves ~ toxic relationships that keep us in a negative learning cycle. In addition, our belief will get us to behave in ways that always push other peoples buttons....and guess what, they will push our buttons back! What we put out, we always get back! We are moving out of the old paradigm of dualistic, negative, karmic co-creation! We have a choice (we always have had this choice but did not have the awareness) to create learning lessons through positive loving interactions or negative fearful interactions. Wherever our focus of attention/intention is aligned is what we will manifest for our self. Are we aligned with free will, love and compassion towards our SELF, and others, or are we aligned with the fear of trying to control others through the pushing of their buttons to get what we want? The “pushing of buttons” is a control mechanism based on duality ~ ego separation ~ where we unconsciously, and sometimes consciously, manipulate others not realizing what we do to them we also do to our SELf ~ because we are ONE.

Now, that is not to say ~ If we choose Loving Interactions over fearful ones ~ we will never create a negative learning experience with another soul again. Many of our relationships are contracted, and they are the catalyst for our greatest learning lessons. Our higher self is an ascended master, but our souls are still learning lessons in self mastery. We are becoming more conscious of the direction of our soul’s energy and the vibration we are emitting however, I have personally not met anyone who has total mastery over their mind, and complete energetic system. We are all still learning and being given the opportunity to self master sometimes through difficult interactions however, we do not want to keep our energy aligned with negative co-creation....we want to stay focused on what we do want, not what we don’t want. 

I choose to be a presence of LOVE, and if I have someone in my life who REPETITIVELY “pushes my buttons” then I will first have to be really honest with my SELF and ask myself: “Why is this person here? What are they wanting to teach me, and is this THEIR lesson or is this mine? Perhaps the lesson is for both people....but not always. Given the diversity in levels of consciousness at this time on the planet ~ where many souls are ascending while some resist their expansion in consciousness ~ extreme discernment, self honesty and self introspection will be required for us to figure out what is being reflected to us. Oftentimes, you will discover the reflection is the energy of chaos and fear within both people (negative elementals and negative thought forms in the chakra system) that is stirring up trouble trying to throw each person off balance so more negativity can enter into each persons energetic system. Be discerning! Sometimes these interactions are created so your LIGHT can be stolen and diminished. 

We live in energetically transformational times, and not all energies are wanting to return to the LIGHT of greater awareness so they are stirring up chaos and turmoil! Keep your energy field in tact ~ stay aligned and grounded within your higher self! If someone greatly upsets you, and you become angry your energy field may expand very rapidly, and open up space for something negative to come in......you will really need to address whether this relationship is worth putting your energy at risk! If someone is purposefully, repetitively pushing your buttons ~ ask your self if this is something you would like to continue to experience. You have free will, and you are the director of your life.....what do you want to experience? If this is something you feel you have had enough of ~ 

re-direct your energy and your focus. Release what no longer serves you, integrate a higher consciousness into your being by learning the lessons from this interaction, and move on towards something more life affirming. If you re-attract a similar interaction in the future, use the wisdom you gained from the previous situation, and handle it differently ~ show the universe you are evolving and mastering the need to recreate negative situations in your life.....show to the universe you can remain aligned with the LOVE of your higher self regardless of what is happening around you.

The teacher, healer, student role is a tricky one. It requires both people to respect each other, and requires tremendous self honesty and trust from both people. The teacher can become attached to the student just as much as the student can become attached to the teacher. When it is time to for the student to move on to a new teacher....the energy will become uncomfortable for both people, and if you remain in this relationship the Universe will end it very abruptly, and oftentimes painfully for you because you did not listen to the warning signs! This is part of your lesson in DISCERNMENT! In addition, the teacher also needs to be able to tap into the direction of energy with their students, and be willing to recommend to the student that it is time for them to allow the Universe to guide them to their next teacher that will support them on the evolution of their soul’s journey. Another very important aspect is the student should not DUAL with the teacher! BE RESPECTFUL! It is egoic and disrespectful to constantly be trying to challenge your teacher during your session. Simply take what resonates and leave the rest behind.... and if you no longer resonate with the teachers messages ~ then clearly it is time for you to find a teacher who you do resonate with.

I highly suggest for spiritual teachers, healers and aspiring students to read the book: “THE ETHICS OF CARING": Honoring The Web Of Life In Our Professional Healing Relationships By:Kylea Taylor. This book will greatly help you understand the dynamics of these relationships, and help you not fall into the common pitfalls that can create great confusion and pain.

Always keep in mind, the greatest teacher, friend and advisor is your HIGHER SELF! We need spiritual teachers in this dimension to help us activate our higher wisdom and to inspire us to move beyond our comfort zones ~ HOWEVER....do not put the spiritual teacher above the wisdom of the intuitive guidance from your HIGHER SELF. 

~ Sabrina

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Going With The Flow

QUESTION: Sometimes I am not sure if I am receiving a soul lessons or do I just go with the flow and don't react to the situation...what I'm trying to ask is how do I know when to speak up for myself and when to surrender? HTRYV ANSWER: To go with the flow means to be in the flow of YOUR higher wisdom.....it does not mean to simply flow and allow everything that comes into your life to happen to you....especially, if you have an internal reaction that feels out of alignment for you. Your internal voice will speak....there will be a reaction....an uneasy feeling in your being and you will know when you need to speak up. But for the most part....many of us are afraid of speaking up for ourselves, so then we will say to ourselves....oh I should simply accept this and surrender to it. However, I work from the path of speak up, ask for what you want, put energy into your ideal situation and if it doesn't work out THEN I will accept the situation and surrender to the plan knowing that there must be a higher purpose. We have nothing to loose when we speak up.....ask in order to receive. ♥ Flow: To be in the flow of our inner wisdom. This requires us to practice stillness and to listen to the messages and sensations our body is giving us. The soul speaks through the language of the heart, not the mental mind of the belief systems we have created or that have been projected onto us by others. To be in the flow does not mean to sit back letting the world happen to you, it means to be in the flow of your creative abilities creating the life you would like to experience. To be in the flow means to be aligned with your power to create change for yourself and the planet. Acceptance: Means to accept that we are all learning and growing our soul's through both negative and positive experiences. Every interaction we have is a soul lesson for BOTH people. Acceptance means no judgment. We can accept the situation as an opportunity to evolve ourselves through the gift of our very own free will. By observing the situation and listening to our higher wisdom we can make discerning decisions for ourselves that we feel are for our highest and best good. Part of our mastery is learning how to properly use our discernment....discernment is attained when we choose to no longer blind ourselves, it is one of the gifts of the Holy Spirt we receive when our spiritual eye is awakened. "Once I was blind but now I see"....it is part of clear seeing so we can create our lives aligned with what is best for OUR soul. Surrender: Means to surrender and live our lives to the wisdom of our higher being. By surrendering to this wisdom, we act in a way that is aligned with our highest good knowing that when we put energy towards our heart felt desires the Universe will fully support us when it is in alignment with the energy we are projecting, when it is consistent with the life blueprint we created for this lifetime, and when it is for our highest and best good. After we have put energy towards what we truly want, and we don't receive it, we Surrender to the bigger plan knowing that we did all we could, and therefore, we will receive it in perfect divine timing or the Universe will assist us in creating something that will be better for us in the future. Flow, surrender and acceptance are very important attributes of soul evolution however, many people are confused on exactly what those are. For some reason we throw all discernment out the window and expect the universe to create for us.....but that is not the way it works. The universal energies are here to support us....they are not here to create for us. That is our job. We have the gift of free will and it is our free will that will determine if we evolve or devolve. Listen to your inner wisdom and make choices that are LIGHT filled for you ~ step into your power as a co-creator and stop expecting something or someone outside of yourself to create the life of your dreams. Only YOU can do that. ~ Sabrina Image From : http://aprilandmaystudio.blogspot.com/search?updated-max=2010-12-06T13%3A01%3A00%2B01%3A00&max-results=15

What Is Unconditional Love? By: Sabrina Reber

God is the perfect example of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Unconditional Love is an unlimited way of being.  Our Creator loves us so much we were given free will ~ with no limitations ~ to choose how we want to create with the Creators Energy. The Creator does not judge us for our actions or choices; however, our actions and choices reflect the level of our vibration and current state of our consciousness.

We are created in the image and likeness of God. We are created from source energy and we have the same energy within us that is also within the Creator. However, many of us have forgotten about our true identity as a spiritual being and we have stopped using our co-creative powers consciously. This has caused us to to make unconscious choices creating suffering for humanity, the planet and ourselves. God does not create suffering; humans create suffering. We are spiritual beings having a human experience and we have forgotten how powerful we are. We are so powerful, we have the free will potential to use our creative faculties in a way that goes against God's laws creating great disharmony on our planet.

There is a common saying among the spiritual movement ~ " Everything is in Divine order"...and to a degree, this is true as there are universal laws in effect that record all energy that has been misqualified. Distorted energy is recorded in our souls energy field whenever we misuse our creative abilities. However, Divine Order does not mean we are suppose to continue to recreate the same mistakes over and over again. We are suppose to learn from our mistakes and misqualified energy transcending the need to  repeat the same negative behavioral patterns over and over.

If we are in a relationship, negative situation or activity that is not evolving and continues to revolve in the same negative patterns we can not throw our DISCERNMENT out the window and say: "Everything is in Divine Order"....I guess this is meant to be. If we do this, we become a walking doormat for unconscious patterns and negativity to continue. Doing so enables others to continue expressing the darkness and limitations of their ego and shadow consciousness which will continue to spread negative toxic emotional energy on the Earth keeping the Earth and all beings in a lower state of consciousness. In order to heal the Earth we must first heal ourselves and that means loving ourselves enough to choose from our own free will ~ circumstances, relationships and activities that enhance our LIGHT.

Setting healthy boundaries with ourselves and others is an act of SELF LOVE. Remember, UNCONDITONAL LOVE is an unlimited way of being, we honor ourselves ~ what is for our highest good using our DISCERNMENT~ and we honor the free will choices of others to create in whatever manner they choose even if we know their choices will create additional suffering for them in the future. Every being has the right to experience life in any way they choose, even if it means they are using God's energy in a destructive way. Releasing these relationships, situations or activities without judgment ~ viewing everything from a higher perspective ~ is an expression of compassion and unconditional love. When we have enough self love for ourselves we no longer are enablers for other peoples poor behaviors. We become beacons of light, powerful lighthouses....generators of love and compassion for others to follow. That's how we heal this planet....one person at a time and it all begins with our own SELF LOVE and DISCERNMENT for what is right for US.  With Love, Sabrina