Monday, March 14, 2011

Chapter 11 Of The Raise Your Vibration Book: "The Importance of Forgiveness" By Sabrina Reber

When we fully accept responsibility for our lives knowing that we are the creator of our entire life experience and remember that we are not powerless victim of circumstances, how could we not forgive those who have harmed us? Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person; it has everything to do with you, your own inner freedom and desire to move forward in your life. Each life experience has made you the person you are today and it is your soul who has chosen to experience these circumstances. Nothing can happen to you unless your soul is in agreement to experience those life challenges for your own soul’s growth. Your soul chose your life circumstances in order to best serve your continuing evolution.

Forgiveness is not a thought, an idea or a mental concept. True forgiveness is a process of greater understanding and analysis. It requires attention, healing and time…. it does not occur instantaneously. In order to truly forgive, each of us must process through the full range of lessons, feelings and emotions associated with the traumatic events in our lives. Blind forgiveness is the easy way out and is usually the route most people prefer. Blind forgiveness is denial and avoidance. It helps people brush things under the rug without ever getting to the root cause of the problem. Unfortunately, this leads to a pattern of recreation in the future because it was never properly addressed. You cannot change a problem with the same state of consciousness that created the problem.

In addition, blind forgiveness is a way for people to avoid truly getting in touch with their feelings. When we avoid our feelings we hold onto them, stuffing them in our energy fields giving them great power. These stuffed feelings become reactive emotions fueling the fires of emotional imbalance, depression, disease and illness in the body. True forgiveness is an energetic experience that occurs when we dissolve and release stuffed traumatic events that are stored in our energy fields. When we experience trauma and are unable to fully process through our intense feelings and emotions, we protect ourselves by shutting off the flow of our divine life force energy. We literally contract our energy fields, deposit our unprocessed feelings into a “deal with later” file and go about our day as if nothing has occurred. The stored energy from these traumatic events creates blocks and barriers in our energy fields separating us from the divine love, wisdom and healing energy of our God self. True forgiveness occurs when we are willing to process through our feelings and emotions from our “soul lessons” gaining the wisdom yet leaving the pain behind. Once our stuffed emotions and feelings get released, we re-open up space for divine energy to freely flow through our system allowing us to keep our hearts open. When our hearts remain open and we release all unforgiveness we have the potential to activate our high heart or thymus leading us into greater states of love, compassion and understanding. When we look back at paintings of Jesus, he is oftentimes pointing to the high heart area giving us clues as to where we need to focus our attention for healing, salvation and personal ascension to occur. Once the high heart is activated (it is an orgasmic event) we will have a direct experience with God and understand our unity with each other and the divine perfection in all things. Our consciousness will be expanded and we will realize that all souls are trying to balance misqualified energy and gain soul growth and understanding sometimes through difficult soul lessons. When we truly understand that everything that occurs in our life has been set up by our God self for our soul’s advancement and evolution, forgiveness and compassion come naturally. 

Unfortunately, many of us have given our power away because we have bought into the belief that Jesus has taken on the responsibility for all of humanity’s sins or misqualified energy. This belief halts our spiritual growth because we don’t learn the lessons behind our forgiveness opportunities thinking Jesus has already done all of the work for us. This belief fosters blind forgiveness and keeps our energetic imbalances, stored emotions and feelings stuck in our energy fields. We end up revolving in the same repetitive behavioral and psychological patterns lifetime after lifetime because we always react and respond from our stuffed emotional wounds that we have not released from our energy fields. Each of us needs to stop expecting Jesus to save us, he has given us the potential to save ourselves. Jesus seeded the planet with a higher consciousness activating the potential for each one of us to achieve his level of Christ Consciousness. All we need to do is clear out our energy fields and raise our vibrations high enough to merge with our God self activating our very own Christ Consciousness within our own being. It is our birthright….it is our divine mission!

We all want to take the easy way out, unfortunately, the only way out is for each of us to accept responsibility for our own shame, pain, unforgiveness, anger and fear we feel from all of the traumatic events that have occurred in our lifetimes. We cannot avoid what we have done to others or what others have done to us. We must move into our feelings and emotions and allow them to heal before we can truly forgive each other and ourselves. Many continue to say they have forgiven, but underneath their words there is a seething energetic eruption just waiting to burst. Many of us have masterfully constructed beautiful masks to place over our pain and we continue to hide behind food, alcohol, drugs, pharmaceuticals and escapism. We numb ourselves out! Many feel it is a waste of time and energy to truly express and experience their deepest feelings and emotions moving forward in their lives as if nothing is wrong. Energetically however, by avoiding our pain, we create layer upon layer of festering negative energy in our energy fields creating disharmony and dis-ease in our lives.

Many of us have childhood trauma, pain and unforgiveness we have been carrying around for years. Childhood trauma is toxic and sets the foundation for our entire adult life. Those of us who have chosen to learn intense soul lessons from our families have a very difficult time forgiving our parents because we live in a constant state of fear. We have spent the majority of our childhood and adulthood not expressing our emotions or feelings because we are fearful of disrupting our families. However, in order to truly forgive our parents we must first access all of those old emotions and feelings before we can truly move into a state of genuine forgiveness. True forgiveness, letting go and releasing does not involve pushing away or suppressing our pain, it is actually a process of embracing our pain so we can integrate and heal the situation by coming to terms with it. We can only come to terms with something when we understand that each event that occurs in our life was chosen by our soul as a life lesson or experience for further advancement. Once we realize this, it is easier for us to release our emotional attachment. By allowing our emotions to surface, we can understand and integrate them helping us to dissolve our judgments about ourselves and each other. We can then move into a place of clarity and understanding, choosing to release our pain, while we retrieve the wisdom from the event that will help our soul grow. Once the lesson is learned, forgiveness is an essential step on the path to healing.

Forgiveness is a journey each of us must take on our own. It is the greatest gift we can give to ourselves! Many people do not want to forgive because they feel it will make the other person right for what they did. From a higher perspective, in God’s dimension, there is no right or wrong. God is not in duality; humans are! However, there is energy balance and every person’s action has a consequence. Everything anyone has ever said or done is recorded in the energy body of their soul and there will be a life review at the time of death. So instead of holding on to unforgiveness, resentment and blame allow yourself the time and space you need to access all of your stuffed emotions so you can release them. Forgiveness sets you free from the other person’s energy so you have more space in your energy field for God’s love, light, compassion and grace. When we hold onto unforgiveness we literally keep a chunk of that persons energy stuck in our energy field. This can create all kinds of problems for us because when our energy or life force is not able to flow freely we create blocks or energetic imbalances in our own system leading to all kinds of emotional, mental, spiritual and physical problems. Unforgiveness is cancerous to our entire system and it will halt divine union with our God self!

Keep in mind that our God self or Spiritual self is always with us, loves us unconditionally and would never allow anything to happen to us unless it was for our highest good. The quicker we set our intention to forgive, recognizing that our God self has brought us an opportunity for greater soul growth, the less likely we will find ourselves in a painful energetic entanglement with the other person. When we continue to hold negative feelings toward another person some of that energy gets stored in our own personal energy field and some of it gets sent to the person we are upset with. The universe will eventually return our negative energy back to us creating a destructive negative spiral. Whatever we put out always returns to us, so it is in our best interest to immediately disengage from all negative entanglements. 

No matter how bad, how traumatic, how horrible or how damaging a person has been to you, set your intention to forgive and release them so you can free yourself. Forgiveness has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you. When we continue to hold grudges against others for previous offenses, the person we are really hurting is ourselves. However, forgiveness does not imply you must maintain a relationship with the people who have hurt you, especially if they continue to stay in the same state of consciousness that brought on the pain in the first place. You can forgive others and have compassion for them knowing that they are reacting from their egos and their lower state of consciousness and simply do not understand what they have done. In fact, stepping into your power, standing up for yourself, setting boundaries and choosing not to be a martyr may have been the lesson your soul wanted you to learn in the first place. Retrieve the gift each of these circumstances has brought into your life and step into true forgiveness, your most difficult and greatest soul’s advancement!

Everyone is working from their own soul agreements, karmic contracts and forgiveness lessons. It is very important to surrender and allow the process while resisting the urge to pass judgment onto ourselves and others. We are all playing out our roles in a dualistic environment advancing our souls into mastery. When we allow ourselves to step into a place of unforgiveness and judgment we lower our vibration. Although some of us have had some pretty tough lessons, it should be our goal to move into compassion, release our stored negative emotions and feelings while setting the intention to step into forgiveness. Give yourself permission and the time and space you need to fully feel whatever you need to feel in order to release it. Eventually, we will all reach a place of inner peace allowing forgiveness to rise to the surface. 

If you fall into unforgiveness, victim hood, blame and judgment recognize you are out of alignment with your soul consciousness and have fallen prey to your ego. Bring yourself back to your center, the truth of your being, knowing that there are no victims and everything is simply an opportunity for soul growth. The human energy field is very much like an onion and there may be many layers of pain and unforgiveness that will need to rise to the surface to be released. As these layers are cleared you may re-experience the pain and fall into blame. Simply recognize what is occurring, allow it to happen and choose to rise above it knowing that you are the co-creator of your entire life experience. Do not beat yourself up for falling out of alignment; embrace your humanity. Be aware you have slipped back into an old pattern and you have the power to step back into the higher vibrations of personal responsibility. When we are in resistance instead of allowance our negative mind chatter will intensify. This is an alarm for us to stop resisting and step into acceptance and forgiveness. Become aware of your thoughts, take several deep breaths and bring yourself back into the present moment aligning with your spiritual self. 

Instead of looking at someone who has hurt you as your enemy, shift your focus to seeing them as your greatest teacher. Instead of being bitter, thank them for bringing you the greatest gift of all, the gift of personal transformation! Forgiveness is of the highest order and is the most difficult for most to master. Forgiveness brings you into a state of greater clarity and alignment with your soul helping you to release all pain, anger, regret, disappointment and frustration. There is one person in particular that needs the most forgiveness and that person is you! When you forgive yourself for your previous actions it will be much easier to step into a place of forgiveness for others. 
  • Forgiveness is a process! We cannot simply make a mental decision to forgive and let go. We must first process through the negatively charged energies that have held us in unforgiveness. Get in touch with your negativity. What emotions, feelings, fears are you experiencing? Write them down, acknowledge them, feel them but do not hold onto them! Ask God to help you release them.
  • Write on a piece of paper the name of every person who has hurt you. Connect with your heart and speak to this persons soul letting them know you would like to forgive them and release them from any energetic entanglement that may have occurred. Once you have stated what you need to state, burn this piece of paper releasing all unforgiveness and pain up into the smoke returning it back to God to be turned into love. Repeat this process except this time bring into your awareness all of the beings you have harmed.
  • State daily with your hand over your heart:
          I forgive you _______.  Thank you for the lesson, we are free.
  • Trauma gets stuck in our energy fields, muscles, tissues and cells and needs to be moved out energetically.
         Recommended Therapies:
         * Energy Work: Reiki, Sacral Cranial, Emotional Freedom Technique,
            Rolfing, Qigong, DNA Theta Healing
         * Massage Therapy
         * Psycho Spiritual Therapist (will help you get in touch with the 
            emotions and feelings stored in your energy fields/subconscious mind.)
    The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. 
    Forgiveness is freeing up and putting to better use the energy once consumed by holding grudges, harboring resentments and nursing unhealed wounds. It is rediscovering the strengths we always had and relocating our limitless capacity to understand and accept other people and ourselves. 
    Sidney and Suzanne Simon  
    When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free. 
    Catherine Ponder  
    Forgiveness is choosing to love. It is the first skill of self-giving love. 
    We achieve inner health only through forgiveness – the forgiveness not only of others but also of ourselves. 
    Joshua Liebman 
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  1. Beautiful article!! Thank you for this post, I have much to learn but am so grateful I have somehow stumbled upon this page <3 Blessing to you my friend

  2. Forgiveness of betrayal and deceit is a tough one. Acceptance (after anger) is the first step out of denial that it hurt and broke your heart. It is like the alcoholic that has to surrender every day, every minute to stop from drinking. We have to stop and admit we are powerless and turn it over to our Higher Power. It ain't easy. Your book is a great first step for me. Bless you.

  3. I'm so glad I stumbled upon your blog. This is everything I've been needing to hear about forgiveness. I've searched, I've googled, and I have not been able to understand how or why or what it means to forgive. A few years ago, my mother put the final nail through my heart and I had to give up on the hope she could ever be a good mom or grandma. Even though she never was it still feels like a huge loss, seeing happy families, people who can call their mom when they need them, let their kids have sleepovers at grandmas and be spoiled rotten, etc...the hope that I will have that someday is gone and I feel like I'm floating alone, unanchored. A motherless child. I've been angry with her for taking that from me. I've felt guilty for being so angry. Forgiveness has been a foreign concept. I will read this again and again until I heal. Thank you so much!

    1. God bless you. I can imagine how you feel. i had parents who could not show me any love/affection. They were better towards my brother and my sons. It has affected my self worth my whole life. It is getting better now but it has taken its tole.

  4. you have one of the most easily understandable ways of explaining spiritual lessons! i LOVE your clarity! it is an enormous help to me as it serves to expand on that which i am learning. Much love being sent to you and may God bless you in this awesome mission !!

  5. yes, forgiveness is healing, however the idea that a child born into ugly circumstances "chose" those circumstances at a time no longer remembered is crazy making and further a very mean spirited thing to propagate to those that have taken lifetimes to recover from being born into demonic situations.

    this whole idea that millions of innocent children, starving in lands conquered and exploited for our comfort "chose" their suffering is an easy cover for the real evils we in the so called "developed" societies force onto those we pillage.

  6. I understand how you feel, but ascension requires everyone to understand that you nor anyone else is ever separated from the Creator. Therefore, the Creator is fully aware of everything going on within and around you. EVERYTHING happens for a divine reason.

    The reason people are born into difficult situations is due to KARMA. Karma is not punishment it simply seeks energy balance. Each soul along with a team of spiritual advisors ~ with final approval from the Creator, chooses their major life lessons and key players before they even incarnate into a physical body. Yes, we each still have "free will" and not everything is set in stone however, family situations and major life events are agreed upon based on the lessons the soul needs to learn.

    Absolutely nothing happens without higher self approval. No one is a victim! Whether it be through our own subconscious energy, the law of attraction, karma or simply an agreed upon life experience to learn and grow from ~ everything that happens to us is here to help us evolve and advance our souls so we can remember who we are and return to LOVE.

    The longer people stay in victim, separation, dualistic, evil/good consciousness ~ refusing to accept personal responsibility for their own lives, soul lessons and healing the longer they will not be able to rise above the lower self/egoic consciousness that keeps them enslaved. The sooner people understand that whatever is happening to them is an opportunity for a deeper level of healing ~ the sooner they will be able to learn and integrate the soul lessons that are being shown to them.

    If you are submersed in evil circumstances then you attracted those situations to you, and it is only you who will be able to shift your energy into a new direction so you can create change within your being for a better future. The spiritual path is the path of personal responsibility is about transforming your self and your energy. If people do not accept responsibility for their creations, they will never be able to stand in a place of empowerment to create the change they so desire....they will always loose their power expecting someone else to make the changes for them when they had the power to make new choices all along.

    Denial of your creations will keep you in a vicious cycle of re-creation. The inner path of soul healing and self responsibility leads to salvation....the outer path of victim consciousness, projections and staying focused on other souls lessons will lead to the world of illusions and more pain. The spiritual path requires us to look at things from a higher perspective.....however the ego will keep you looking at things solely from the human perspective which is full of criticism, opinions, limitations and judgments......the ego can never see the spiritual solution. The ego "Edges God Out" and makes you feel like you are victim ~ when you are actually a Creator Being.


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